Dating with no intention to marry
If a woman is dating a man for 10 years (or more), she has every right to ask that man if marriage is on the table.
Ideally, she’d ask before a decade of her life passes by, but at some point the question needs to be asked.
I, for the life of me, cannot understand how a woman ever finds herself in this predicament.
If marriage is the ultimate goal and a man doesn’t seem to be interested in marriage, it puzzles me why a woman won’t just pack up and leave.
Men tend to carry the most blame when situations like this are queued up for discussion.
Instead of empowering women, men are looked to be “wasting a woman’s time” or “too immature to settle down.” Granted, those viewpoints are likely an accurate description, I’m not exactly a fan of leaving personal, life-altering decisions in the hands of other people.
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Women often opt not to do this because they don’t want to be seen as if they’re being too forward or they’re going to scare the guy away. Better for him to run away now than to waste 10 (or more) years of your life keeping you in a perpetual state of limbo. If a man makes a woman wait that long to marry her it could mean a variety of things.
All of the married men I know said they knew very early it was on the agenda and they simply wanted to make sure they weren’t wrong in their assessment.
Meaning, it didn’t take them 10 (or more) years to figure it out.
There’s a chance he might not value marriage, a chance he might not see you as the marrying type, a chance he might be too afraid to make the jump because he doesn’t think the relationship is strong enough to last, or (and this is very possible) you never said anything about wanting to be married so he didn’t think about it either. If you waited 10 years (and you’re not okay with it) you’re just as much to blame as he is.