Dating with young children

As we get older, the chances of dating someone who has had serious relationships, divorces and kids get significantly higher.What happens when you add kids into an already complicated dating mix? And how can new partners get involved in what can be a complex situation without upsetting anyone? He has an 11-year-old daughter from a previous relationship.It sounds heartless, but at the beginning of a fledgling relationship, the slightest thing can turn someone off.And dating someone who has children already means that, naturally enough, you will always take second place to them, rightly so.And if you're a parent you're going to be extra cautious about who's appropriate to be around your child - concerns you wouldn't have if you were footloose and fancy free.

Right off the starting block, if you've been in a monogamous relationship for a long time, you've probably fallen into a Sunday/Friday missionary position (or similar) pattern. The bad news is you may carefully plan your sexual escapades only to be walked in on by your toddler (or worse yet, your 14-year-old). Children are naturally competitive, especially when it comes to their parent's attentions. In fact, even big cities can feel pretty small in these situations. There were some rocky points along the way, but we made it.

Your children may not want to share the spotlight, and that may never change. And we only got walked in on during sex twice during the process.

Years ago, I went out with a guy who had a young daughter from a previous relationship.

Generally speaking, children are less enthusiastic about their parents’ divorce than the parents themselves – and are also less-than enthusiastic about the prospect of any new partner in the picture.

My ex-husband and I separated after 16 years of marriage. Having personally navigated the scary, thrilling, messy world of dating post-divorce with three kids in tow, here's some advice I can share with other brave souls out there.

Leave a Reply