Fear of rejection dating psychology
But it does mean we need you to be civil and kind when refusing a genuine offer of companionship and affection.
Handling rejection with compassion is about more than softening the blow to an interested but uninteresting suitor. A callous dismissal that makes a man feel inferior can twist his respect for women towards bitterness and hatred.
Unhealed wounds make for unhappy partners, and unhappy partners make for destructive relationships.
While we’re at it, let’s shatter the myth that women are givers and men are takers.
And when you only agree to have sex with us if we treat you like a princess, you’re setting up an unhealthy dynamic of exchange rather than sharing and cheapening intimacy by expecting us to pay for it.
As women, can you see how, if you tie sex to receiving an expensive meal or gift, you feed men’s expectations that you will put out after receiving those things and in turn fuel our anger when you don’t?
It’s not obligatory to say yes after your man does something special.
Unless your man is clueless and lacks all self-awareness, he already knows about the ways he’s failed you and wishes he could apologize in an atmosphere of acceptance.
♦◊♦ When we engage fear, love disappears, and then we wonder where it went.