Rules of teenage dating
Basically, there’s no going steady in the Thomas family before you’re a legal adult.Oh, and if you want to ask one of her daughters to a dance or prom, you ask her father for permission first.“I used to say, ‘Don’t let ideology get in the way of love,’ [but] I think when people meet other people, they want to know what their values and lifestyles are,” she says.And once people started broaching politics, she says, other taboos, such as keeping past relationships to yourself, began to get ditched too.“There’s a sort of New Age chivalry about that.” Unfortunately, the rule seems even less clear for those in the LGBT community, says Morningside Heights resident and comedian Stephanie Foltz, who is bisexual.
“If there’s not an immediate spark, you’re wasting both of your time,” says Manley.
“It opens up a kind of flirty dialogue of like, ‘You can pay for the next date,’ ” he says.
Manley is on the same page, but his reasoning is more economical: “Guys still [usually] make more money than women, so they should offer to pay, regardless of whoever asked out whom,” he says.
“I don’t want to be with someone who’s going to play games and feel weird if I text them to say hello,” Donahue says.
Manley agrees, noting that in current times, “Someone you met on a dating app might have gone on three more dates by the time you get back to them three days later.” Forget keeping things chaste until you’re several dates in.